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Help! My period isn’t synched with the moon.

Come, gather with me by my hearth. Let’s sort this out.

Close your eyes and visualise in your mind’s eye, the moon, in all her luminous beauty.

Take a deep, womb deep, breath in.

Open your eyes and give the best eye roll that you can.

And exhale through your mouth with a roar, releasing all the frustration surrounding the un-synched-ness of your cycle to the lunar cycle.

Now, repeat after me :

FUCK

THAT

SHIT!”

Feel better now? Confused?

It is a very popular myth that women’s menstrual cycles are governed by the lunar cycle. Yes the moon controls the Earth’s waters and we are made up of about 60% water (I actually though it was 70% but a quick google search told me different). Yes our menstrual cycles are cyclic and the phases of our cycles can be described in the same manner as the moon’s. The associated energy of the moon’s effect on earth is mirrored in our moods and own energy levels, BUT there endeth the story. The tales that tell how all women in ancient times bled together under the dark and new moon, then ovulated under the full, are unfounded. They are lovely stories and it would be beautiful if true. I mean, that’s exactly how it would have happened some of the time but not all the time, not every month. It makes sense to live in harmony with the natural world in a time and place before electric light, modern medicine and endocrine disruptors but all it is is another stick with which to bash us with, another standard we’re to aspire to and meet or feel inadequate when we fail.

Unless your own cycle is 29.5 days long every month, you won’t ever be “in sync” with the moon, menstrually. Let’s take my cycle for instance, this month I am bleeding on/with the dark moon. I haven’t done this for almost a year. Last month I started 3 days after the new moon. For most of the this year I have been bleeding either side of the full moon, but have actually travelled through and bled with all phases. Why? Because my own cycle varies each month and ranges between 27-31 days long and the other month it was only 24 days! I’m not a robot. Here’s the thing – your body IS in sync…with itself! The only time your cycle isn’t “in sync” with your own natural rhythms, ebbs and flows of your ovaries is when you are taking the contraceptive pill (or have the injecion/implant) which suppresses/stops your cycle, or when you are pregnant, undergoing medical treatment such as chemotherapy or are post menopause. At these times it maybe useful or beneficial to follow the lunar cycle but when we are following our own cycle please know that you are in sync with your own body and that’s who you’re supposed to be in sync with!

This whole red moon/white moon bleeding with paricular phases of the moon is something that at one time I bought into it too! However, I’m sick to my ovaries of this new New Age expectation of how to and when we are supposed to menstruate. Again, repeat after me:

“FUCK

THAT

SHIT!”

The lunar energy is powerful. I can feel it, but it doesn’t mean that I ignore my own inner energy and being; self first lunar second. This month I am aligned (not synched) with the dark moon and my own moods are deep rooted in need to rest, in solitude, pretty much hibernate, my inner winter phase , in the same way the moon does when it is invisible in the nights sky. It won’t be next month and that’s how it goes.

As always, I’m interested in your thoughts – what is your take on menstrual/lunar cycle synchronicity?

Am I tuned to the moon? Absofuckinglutely! I love the moon and how it’s connected to our planet and her energy and beauty.

Is my menstrual cycle? Nope! It’s my period and I’ll bleed when I need to.

L xx

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New Moon in Aquarius

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Tonight the moon disappears from view completely in the sky. The Dark Moon phase. The Crone. The Dark Moon is the period where the moon is 100% invisible, moving into the New Moon phase only with that first tiny slither of crescent gently glowing through the inky depths of space. For the majority of people and all the printed or online calendars, the dark and new are one and the same phase. So, tonight, (21.04 GMT) the moon descends to her lowest ebb, hidden and hibernating in the winter of her cycle, greeting the death of the last cycle and awaiting the rebirth of the next.

Last Full Moon saw a Lunar Eclipse and this New Moon sees a Solar Eclipse which  concentrates the energy surrounding this new cycle. This is the perfect opportunity for letting go and making both changes and space, for new growth; a bit like pruning a tree.

The moon is moving through the sign of Aquarius currently, which is an air sign. This is a social sign and one of humanity. It is also the most detached of the zodiac. What does this mean? Well, use this energy to gather your friends and loved ones, get conversations rolling around topics such as politics and philosophy as this is ideal timing for sharing ideas and points of view rather than being right versus wrong. The times we are living in, since 2012, is the age of Aquarius – moving towards equality and harmony, having left behind blood-thirsty, war-loving masculine Mars, and the war on women. Use this Aquarian phase to walk your talk and be true to you; who you are and what you stand for. Be detached enough to let go of what is not serving you, make your changes and shake things up to the better.

This moon cycle is in the month of Ash, Nuin, and known as the Moon of Waters.  The waters refer to our feelings and specifically those around love.  Love of self, love for our partners, family and friends. That Valentine’s Day was yesterday, is a lovely segue into this period. Enjoy playful romance with your partner (this is definitely more a playful time rather than overly intimate one).

So go for it, feel the feels, enjoy the company of our loved ones, be open to discussions, make changes, release and let go and make your intentions to create the life you want.  The plans you make now, in the first new cycle since the season shifted towards Spring (Imbolc) will be realised in the months to come as they grow, fruit and come to harvest.

The best time to make New Moon plans and intentions is within the first 8 hours of the darkest point (from 21.04 GMT this evening) as the energy is strongest, decreasing as it gets further away towards the waxing crescent moon.

My own New Moon ritual involves meditation, setting intentions, tarot spreads and a mini vision board – what does yours look like?

Lx