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Mini Musings #2

How are you feeling today?

I haven’t experienced any panic or anxiety about the pandemic but instead find that I am channeling more anger and frustration. Particularly around some folk’s sense of “entitlement” and “I’m OK Jack” mindset. It’s not OK and that’s where I find my energy is being directed, and vocally too!

Despite the strict social distancing measures placed upon the country to help us all, to save lives and to protect the vulnerable, some people are still flouting the measures. It is impossible to call it willful ignorance, no-one can avoid the daily drenching of information and breaking news, even if it is only a trickle! It’s pure and utter willful fucking selfishness.

I have been in a particular supermarket recently and both times I went in, I had to tell different members of staff to back the fuck off out of my personal space. Why is it so difficult?

My husband works in a frontline industry and a few of his colleagues there are also showing difficulties in understanding the concept of 2m distance and working independently. It actually gives me the rage.

As I mentioned, my go-to emotion surrounding the whole pandemic has been frustration and anger (generally around other people’s selfish behaviours) rather than anxiety about the state of affairs and I’ve been thinking about why. The conclusion I’ve come to is that I’m angry with myself. I didn’t take the initial threats seriously when the virus was spreading through China and even glibbly commented “calm down, you’re more likely to get cancer than corona”. Oh how that bit me on the arse! I was the first of my group of friends to take the virus! More people are still dying from cancer and poverty ever day than from covid-19, however, the reality is that even more people will now do so as resources are stretched to the limit dealing with the aforementioned cancers and all other illnesses with covid-19 now piling on top and its all a matter of priority.

I’m frustrated because this “thing” is outwith our control, outwith my control. I’m frustrated and annoyed with initial government inaction, frustrated and angry that we don’t have the resources to properly equip our medical people, frustrated and thoroughly pissed off at all the Tory voters who have continued to vote for governance that has sold and scaled back the NHS to the point of breaking had the audacity to stand and clap for the NHS workers the other evening.

But I also know that sitting stewing in my own juices helps no-one, myself included! So instead I’m focussing on what I can control and what I can do; keep my own family safe and well, calling my parents daily to chat and my son video calls his friends and cousins to stay intouch, I take my daily walk, observing the distancing measures if others are approaching, and keep the wee bottle of hand sanitiser in my bag at all times.

Minding my own business when the neighbour invites the other neighbour’s kid over to play is a challenge though I have to admit. I did rather than lose my shit, ranting about it in our kitchen when that actually happened, resulting in my kid suggesting I need anger management classes – oops!

I am not the police and won’t police my community but I do reserve the right to call out those behaving irresponsibly or like entitled twats, even if it is just to myself!

With love and blessings

Lissa xx

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Mini Musings #1

Suspected Coronavirus and recovery

As the number of positive cases of Coronavirus /Covid19 soar across the globe, we are being updated by the hour with statistics of how many have it and how many have died. But where are the statistics on the number of people who have the virus but have never been tested? How many people have had it already and have come through the other side? Those are the real figures and statistics that we need to add a healthy dose of realism to the pandemic. The stories that give people hope when the news is full of death and despair. These are the figures and statistics we will never get. Dr Catherine Calderwood, Chief Medical Officer in Scotland estimated last week that 65,000 people in Scotland could have the virus at that point in time, but since people are self isolating, there is no accurate record.

I believe I am one such (non)statistic.

It began with a head ache on the evening of Wednesday 11th March. On the Thursday morning I could barely get out of bed; every joint and muscle in my body ached, I was running a fever and had a bone deep fatigue that I’ve never before experienced. To bed I went and slept and rested. This was followed the following day with raised glands in my throat/neck and swollen tonsils. The symptoms remained for 6 days. Twice I thought I was on the mend, got up, did some housework and twice I was slapped back down by the virus and returned to my bed. Never once did I have a cough nor any difficulty breathing. It felt like the flu I had when I was 14; in bed for a week and missed my exams at school. On Day 8 had I still be symptomatic, I would have called NHS111 but I have made a full recovery and am well. The only lingering thing I have is 1 slightly swollen tonsil and an achey gland on that same side but they can take 2-3 weeks to subside (thank you google).

There was no call to NHS111 or to my GP as per the guidelines provided. There is no record of this illness/virus on my medical file. No-one knows I was ill apart from family and those to whom I told ( it was on my instagram stories too). And I won’t be the only one. In the 2 weeks that have past since I recovered I know of 4 friends, scattered across the Central Belt, who have been symptomatic, members of extended family too, experiencing worse or less cases than I had. I had a mild dose by all accounts.

I am sharing this today because I know it is scary out there when watching the constant Breaking News on TV or online, there is no hiding from the updates, but I wanted to gently remind people that there are far, far more people who will take the virus and who will come through it as they would most other viruses or bugs, with varying degrees of severity but not everyone will become a statistic on the news.

Sadly some people will not be as lucky as I was, a friend has lost a close relative to the virus already. Too many people have indeed lost their lives to Covid19, and I doubt that many of us will emerge from the situation untouched by C19.

It is not my intention to diminish real fears and concerns for the health of our loved ones and ourselves, my intention is as I said at the top of this wee ramble, that I want to share a positive recovery , which most cases will result in, during a most terrible time that we are all facing together.

With love and blessings

Lissa xx

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Journal Prompts

Do you keep a journal?

I have for years, since I was about 12 and received my first leather 5 year diary with a little clasp at the front. Some years I have been very detailed in my entries and others, well, to describe my written entries as “sparse” would be generous. Certainly in the past 5 years, daily journaling has been not only my ritual in self care but also my medicine.

Journaling is a very therapeutic exercise for me personally, where I find it easier to offload onto paper than out loud to another person. Once my thoughts are out, I can let them go. Once they are on the page I can begin to work through them like a puzzle to solve or an idea to develop and grow. It is an incredibly freeing and private way to collect myself.

But sometimes a block can come up and the ideas dry up or something happens that causes a phase of second guessing myself or challenges a previous view. In these times I have found journal prompts to be helpful for jump starting my thoughts and getting me thinking and creating again.

So, I am sharing some journal prompts that I have used recently and some that may help or assist you as we navigate these uncertain times, to ease any anxiety or think about the future.

Journal Prompts

  • How am I feeling, right now?
  • Where in my body am I feeling and holding my emotions?
  • What is one thing I can do today to ease any anxiety or tension?
  • What am I grateful for right now?
  • What 10 things am I grateful for today?
  • Where is the silver lining in my situation?
  • If I could live my ideal day tomorrow, what would that look like?
  • What are my non negotiable values?
  • Why are my values, my values – where did I learn and accept them as such?
  • How have I changed in the past 2 weeks?
  • What have I learned in the past month?
  • If I could change one thing in my life what would it be?
  • What single task could I tackle today that would effect that change (from above prompt)?
  • What habit would I most like to start and why?
  • Who or what am I most inspired by?
  • One thing I will never regret is … because …
  • What do I to forgive myself for?
  • What am I excited about?
  • What am I looking forward to most once this period of Social Distancing is over?
  • What am I learning about myself in this period of Social Distancing?
  • If I could imagine a different world, what would it look like?
  • What one thing could I do it make or be the change I would like to see in the new world?

Let me know if you have found these useful or if you want to share your own prompts in the comments below.

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Social Connection from Afar

Social Distancing – the catchphrase of the past week, especially over the past weekend! A seemingly straight forward construct but incredibly difficult to enforce and adhere to. Staying away from family members and friends, missing out on social gatherings such as birthday parties and Mother’s Day, schools and colleges closed indefinitely with looked-forwards-to graduations no longer taking place, holidays been cancelled and pubs, cinemas, restaurants also closing their doors. Small businesses closing down, sporting events cancelled and any gatherings where we can’t be more than 2m away from the next person are no a no-go situation.

For the introvert in me, this is not a chore but a unique period of time where I can indulge my need for solitude without the guilt. BUT for many people this enforced isolation is not a happy place to be and can have a real detrimental affect on their mental health and general well being. And what about members of our communities who are already living at a distance from others, such as elderly or vulnerable people?

From the powers of the interwebs, I have noticed a number of people are already bored (!) having to find stuff to do at home. Being content in our own homes is not an easy ask for all. So, I have some ideas to help ease the boredom and help us to stay connected despite the distance.

Telephone

  • Who remembers being in school all day but still spending 2 hours on the phone in the evening chatting to friends? Not texting or face-timing but proper lengthy telephone conversations. Go old school and get on the phone, lying sprawled out on the floor, 1990’s stylee if you want, but this time the calls are free from our mobile rather and we won’t get shouted at from mum to get off the phone and running up the bill!
  • If just chatting is too “last century, darling” then get connected with WhatsApp, Skype, Facetime and stay intouch that way – the key thing is keeping in contact with those you don’t live with. Make technology work for you.
  • If your older family members can use their smart phone, ask the grandparents to read your kids their bed time story using facetime or even just reading it down the phone.

Letters/Writing

  • Go proper old old school and write letters – 2 fold, eases boredom and keep you connected! Plus, how lovely is it to receive a letter that isn’t a bill!? I used to have loads of penpals as a teenager and loved it. Encourage your kids to write to their grandparents, or make cards and send them. Even make your own envelopes and decorate them too. Explore your creativity and then share it with someone you love and make their day.
  • If your kids are bored, create secret code and leave messages for each other round the house on Post-its.

Old fashioned but fun

  • If your kid’s pals are in reach (ie in the same street) use walkie talkies to chat or Morse Code by torch light from their windows. (I might be getting all Famous Five on myself here!!)
  • If and when you are out – travelling to work or collecting essential food items/medicine, you don’t have to ignore people, a smile or a nod is far reaching, a small acknowledgement of the other person in a respectful non-virus spreading way

Internet

  • If Facebook Messenger or WhatsApp are your choice of communicaion, set up group chats / video and have a bookclub, a virtual come dine with me (you can work out the logistics yourself on that one), an at home pub quiz, pick a season on Netflix or Prime and discuss the episodes together each week ie Outlander (not diggin series 5, sorry folks…), if you play an instrument, set up a group with other musicians and create a jammin session or orchestra.

At home

  • In some homes, the people who live there are not always communicating and connecting, with different people having different routines and timescales; (re)introduce family dinning, and set the table, eat and chat together, get to know each other again.
  • Perhaps do a puzzle together – you never truly know someone until you try to do a jigsaw with them! If a puzzle is going to get you thrown in jail, maybe a board game or cards or dominoes is more family friendly.
  • Connect with your younger self and get out your old cds or LPs and listen to them start to finish and enjoy them. Look at, read and appreciate the artwork on the sleeves and remember what it was like before we could stream all the music all the time.

What I’m suggesting is only the start – there are endless ways of staying in touch and amused during the crises we face. And on the matter of boredom, if your kids are bored, GOOD!! Boredom is the best place to spark creativity – let the kids be bored because only they can get “unbored” by themselves; it’s a life skill lost to many adults and young people alike in this modern instant gratification world.

Stay well, stay healthy and stay in touch with each other.

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Alder Moon

It is a much debated, debunked and reproven  calendar system that may or may not have preceded the Julian variety in Celtic lands. The year is broken down into 13 months/moons each named after an indigenous tree, the first being Birch, symbolising new beginnings.
The forth moon is Alder (Fearn), symbolising balance and rebirth.
Of course depending on which calendar you follow this month will be Alder or March, and this new moon will be the third new moon (of 2020), the firth new moon (of the Ogham calendar) or the fifth moon (if following the year from the old pagan ways which Samahin/Samhuinn being the new year marker.)

Ash Moon ~ 18th March – 14th April

In Celtic mythology, the Alder (Fearn)  is all about balance; the balance of duality, masculine and feminine energy and principles. It is ruled by and grows near water (feminine) yet has strong links to war, particularly in Welsh Mythology concerning the Battle of the Trees (masculine). It bridges the worlds above and below. The rebirth and return of Spring is symbolised by Alder as well and both healing and protection, resurrection and transformation.

The correspondances associated with Alder are:

  • The deities Freya and Branwen as well as the Fae
  • The number 4
  • The colours pale green and true red
  • Rubies
  • The letters F and V
  • The planets Mars and Venus
  • Energy represented is Challenging
  • Animals : Hawk
  • Balanced in both the Feminine & Masculine
  • The Elements Water and Fire

What to do in the month (moonth) of Alder :

  • Gather the bark and leaves this month to make healing decoctions.
  • Work on banishing spells.
  • Spend time in the garden, tending to any plants (edible or decorative) for growing this season.
  • Perfect time to work personal magic focussing on divination, intuition and making deeply spiritual decisions and choices.
  • Make a whistle from the shoots of an Adler to cal upon the Air Spirits, or if you are so inclined, make a flute!
  • Make charms for Feary magic with Alder flowers and twigs
  • Create a stave or Ogham stick from an Alder twig
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Dawn of a New Future

This Spring Equinox sees us standing at the dawn of a new future. The season of rebirth, new beginnings, hope, optimism and enthusiasm after a long winter and latterly a very dark winter (looking at you coronavirus!). We have yet to reach “Peak Corona”, but already changes are evident. Positive change that shows just how delicate the balance is on our planet, between nature and human. Nature is reclaiming her rightful place.

Satellite imagery is showing massive patches of visible sky above areas previously densely blanketed in air pollution over China, Italy and parts of the US. In Venice there are swans and dolphins and fish in the canals which are clearer now than they have been in living memory. In a very short period of time, since we, the humans, have had to stop and change how we live, ie the plundering of the earth for resources to manufacture disposable stuff and commute using fossil fuels to work in industries to either manufacture or to earn money to buy said disposable stuffs, when we stop that, nature has the chance to restore the balance. I’m interested to see what happens post Coronafest, when Covid-19’s world tour has played its last venue. Will people and industry return to the ways of life B.C. (before coronavirus) or will we, the collective, finally sit up and realise that that life was not sustainable?

Mother Nature will continue to spin on her axis, pandemics will continue to happen as mankind pushes into the natural world for “growth” aka greed, releasing bacteria we can’t cope with, which needs to stay within its natural habitat. Wide spread forest fires, floods and freak weather systems become the new norm. New catastrophe following the last one. Lessons need to be learned but how many times? Because at the end of the day, we all live in Mother Nature’s house and the house always wins.

This is our chance to make the necessary changes, it’s not too late, infact the proof of the benefits of making changes is happening now. We can do more and we can do better. I don’t have answers as to all the hows, this is a complex beast we have created that now needs disassembling, but I have ideas and I know I’m not the only one.

Communities are pulling together, in every country, helping one another now. We are realising what we want versus what we need and are being forced to (re)view our priorities and values. I think it’s time government and big business start doing likewise. We are being shown the way , being given the opportunity to make the necessary changes. We are being challenged in this new dawn; which path to take? The challenge is ours should we choose to accept it.

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Spring Equinox

When do you decide Spring has sprung ?

Is it 1st March (by the Meteorological calendar) or Spring Equinox (by Astronomical calendar)? Or just when you feel the shift in the season and witness the trees budding and notice the light?

This year the Vernal/ Spring Equinox falls on Friday 20th March 2020  in the Northern Hemisphere (Autumnal Equinox for our wild ones in the Southern Hemisphere).  The actual time of the Equinox is 3.50am GMT.

The Equinox is a time of balance. We have 12 hours of day light and 12 hours of darkness a the sun rises due East and sets due West; equal amounts of light and dark before we head on towards the solstice, the light ever growing.

This is the period of fertility; animals, nature, ideas and projects. Imagery of rabbits, hares, chickens and eggs symbolising fertility. The rabbits and hares reputed for breeding and eggs, and chicks who lay eggs, represent the hatching of new life, birth (never wondered what bunnies and chicks had to do with Christ’s resurrection?). The period of rebirth and new beginnings, as Spring follows the symbolic death and hibernation of Winter. 

This season and festival celebrates the Maiden aspect of the Goddess. Ostara or Eostre in particular, who carried a basket of brightly coloured eggs and was accompanied by her pet hare. As they travelled they brought forth new life and regeneration to the land scattering her coloured eggs amongst the flowers in the meadows.

The Spring Equinox mirrors a women’s inner world in its Inner Spring season, where everything is new and fresh, preparing the fertile landscape, the pre-ovulation. It is also the waxing crescent moon phase. See how we are all connected ~ woman, nature, moon, our own inner cycles. All one.

The previous festival of Imbolg was embracing the last of Winter, and planning what was to come in the year ahead. This festival now calls upon us to put these plans into action. We got rid of the old and expired habits, practices and burdens and are now ready to give new life to who and what we are to be, to what we have created, to what we are to birth. The energy is one of excitement, optimism and anticipation. As the year waxes, so too does our enthusiasm.

Do you do anything special to acknowledge this Sabbat; the precursor to Easter?

Ways to celebrate Spring Equinox:

  • Rise early and watch the sunrise – then close the day witnessing the sunset. This is a beautiful ritual to do outside, weather permitting
  • Decorate your home with fresh flowers from your garden such as daffodils, primroses, hyacinths and tulips
  • Enjoy an eggy breakfast
  • Paint or decorate boiled eggs
  • Organise an egg hunt in the garden or local park with your decorated eggs – if it’s a nice day bring a picnic
  • Give a gift of a chocolate egg (instead of waiting until Easter)
  • Get into your Spring cleaning in earnest – throw the windows open wide and allow the old air to leave and the welcome in the fresh
  • Create a joyful happy play list on Spotify and get your groove on as you clean or make dinner. A kitchen disco is a great disco.
  • Charge some fresh water with Equinox energy by leaving a dish of water on the window sill from sunrise to sunset then use it to water your plants or make flower essence tincture.
  • Reset your altar or shrine to reflect the change in season.
  • Spend some time in meditation and contemplate balance, rebirth and what spring means to you.


While it’s not been a particularly cold winter here in the UK it has been a blustery and stormy one, and with the arrival of Coronavirus / Covid-19, and I for one am ready for Spring and all that she brings forth.

With blessings

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Ash

The third moon of the Ogham Celtic Calendar is Ash (Nuin), symbolising influence and light of the World Tree, which is where we now find ourselves.
Of course depending on which calendar you follow this month will be Ash or February, and this new moon will be the second new moon (of 2020), the third new moon (of the Ogham calendar) or the forth moon (if following the year from the old pagan ways which Samahin/Samhuinn being the new year marker.)

Ash Moon ~ 18th February – 17th March

In Celtic mythology, the Ash is also known as the tree of enchantment and transformation. It is also associated with healing, prophesy, divination and intuition.

The correspondances associated with Ash are:

The deities Minerva, Oestre, Frigg, Nemesis

The number 3

The colours pale blue and white

Turquoise and Lepidolite

The letter N

Healing energy

Animals : Unicorn

Balanced in both the Feminine & Masculine

The Elements of Fire and Water

What to do in the month (moonth) of Ash :

Make broom/besom – the handle is made from Ash wood

Use the tender tops of Ash leaves to make a detox tea to cleanse the liver and spleen and strengthen the immune system.

Deepen your Spring cleaning – get really thorough!

Consider your personal transformation of self or space, physically or spiritually

Spend time outside

Make a healing wand from an Ash branch/twig

Perfect time to work personal magic focussing on your inner self.

Place an Ash leaf under your pillow to induce prophetic dreams

Make a talisman or charm to keep about your person from a twig from an Ash tree to repel toxic people

Create a stave or Ogham stick from an Ash twig

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Rowan

Are you familiar with the Ogham Celtic Calendar? (Pronounced Oh-am) It is a much debated, debunked and reproven calendar system that may or may not have preceded the Julian variety in Celtic lands. The year is broken down into 13 months/moons each named after an indigenous tree, the first being Birch, symbolising new beginnings. The second moon is Rowan, symbolising the strengthening of your resolve and nurturing those dreams, which is where we now find ourselves.


Rowan Moon ~ 21st January – 17th February.

In Celtic mythology, the Rowan is also known as Mountain Ash or Witchwood and is the tree of wisdom and protection. It is also associated with personal power, dreams, vision, mystery, magic, tenacity, healing, astral travel, perseverance and transformation.The correspondances associated with Rowan are:

  • The Triple Goddess Brigid
  • The number 2
  • The colour white
  • Protection against unwanted spirits
  • Personal growth; tapping into your intuition to create your desired dreams
  • The pentacle – the bottom of each red berry takes the form of the pentacle
  • Peridot and smokey quartz
  • The letter L
  • Quickening energy
  • Flower : Snowdrop
  • Animals : Duck, Unicorn, Bear
  • Feminine
  • Dragons and Elves
  • The Elements of Earth and Fire
  • Unlucky to chop down a Rowan

What to do in the month (moonth) of Rowan :

  • Celebrate the cross quarter fire festival of Imbolc
  • Begin your Spring cleaning
  • Dedicate/ rededicate yourself or be initiated in to your chosen path, under a Rowan tree
  • Make a wish when you spot a snowdrop
  • Make your own butter and bake scones with the butter milk (and of course spread he butter on the warm scones with jam – rowan berry jam is delish!)
  • Enjoy the Rowan berry wine made from the berries in the previous Autumn
  • Make a talisman or charm to keep about your person from a twig from a Rowan Tree
  • Create a stave or Ogham stick from a Rowan twig
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Morning Ritual

Do you have a morning routine? A ritual, a practice, a rhythm? A way to set yourself up for the day ahead?

Or are you more of a fly by the seat of your breeks kinda gal?

Morning routines are very trendy right now, YouTube has millions of videos demonstrating such (I would possibly record one too but that level of videoing, faffing and editing goes way beyond my capabilities!).

Perhaps you have a pattern you flow through daily but never thought to call it a “morning routine” because it’s just life and has no need for a label.

Personally, I do have a morning ritual, and it is sacred (and is so, because I said so). I need this time because it gives me time to think, to prepare myself mentally for the day ahead and just give me space before the chaos that is my life commences. I am very much a morning person but absolutely NOT a morning people person. We live in a multi generational household with a distinct lack of inner monologues and filters, that the need for my ritual is a very deliberate act of self care.

Why do I refer to my morning tasks as a ritual rather than routine? Because it is a conscious and deliberate practice. It is carried out with intention and focus. I sometimes mix it up depending on how I’m feeling or whether my husband is at home or still at work (he works nights shift). It is not done out of duty or on auto pilot or without careful consideration. I am not wish washy or half arsed. Having a shower then brushing my teeth and getting dressed is routine. Prepping the coffee machine and organising my vitamins is routine. Getting down to the actuals of what forms my daily practice is ritual. This time is personal, private and unapologetically mine.

So what does it look like?

My routine begins the evening before, prepping the coffee machine to come on 5 mins before my alarm is due to go off means that I won’t hit the snooze button – I can’t/won’t waste coffee plus it smells glorious. I also take a flask of warm water upstairs to my room with a glass and my vitamins for the morning. (This is routine, over ritual. I’m not the person who finds peace, calm and gratitude in doing the menial and mundane.)

Before bed I check my planner for tomorrow’s To-Do List, add to or make changes to it as necessary, and review my oracle pull from the morning.

When the alarm goes off (more often than not I’m awake before it rings), I light the candle beside my bed, fill my glass with the water from the flask and pop in the soluble vitamin. While its fizzing I’ll go and pour my coffee and head back to bed. From there I have my Travellers Notebook housing different journals, the first being my menstrual tracker (in here I note where I am in my cycle, my sleep, feelings, and any other pertinent information) next is my morning pages journal ( free flow stream of consciousness writing – a brain dump for everything in my head, from the drivel to the inspired and general day to day goings-ins in between; everything goes in here and nothing is censored.) From there I will draw my daily tarot card and note it, an oracle card and note it, meditate and more recently started incorporating EFT (tapping). Once all this is done, my coffee is done and so too the vitamins. All in, takes about and hour to an hour and a half.

Next up I would love to say is yoga or stretching, but no, it is breakfast. My breakfast doesn’t differ, it’s always porridge, topped with fruit, seeds, nuts and berries, a fully loaded bowl, practically a meal! The yoga is one of those things I would love to incorporate into my morning, but in all honesty, it’s not going to happen, despite having saved (more than I care to admit) videos on YouTube of Yoga with Adriene. I’ve watched the videos just not physically followed along… During breakfast, I light a candle and sit and enjoy the peace and stillness of each nourishing spoonful. I turn on my laptop and usually watch Youtube. Today, I took to the couch, porridge bowl in hand and devoured the first episode of Series 5 of Outlander. Droughtlander be gone!!! This is still ritual rather than routine as I don’t watch any random videos, but choose specific ones and relevant to my ongoing learning and growth.

Then the morning routine kicks in: breakfast dishes cleared, first load (or only load) of washing in the machine and the airer striped of yesterdays clean clothes and put away, shower and I’m ready to face the family.

As you can see, my pattern is part ritual part routine and together they form the rhythm of my morning. This is how the vast majority of my mornings go, but sometimes I have to adapt and sometimes I miss out everything altogether, but when I do, I feel a bit discombobulated and on a back foot for the whole day. I miss the clarity and the breathing space on my own. As an introvert (yes an introvert, I’m a gobby introvert!) I need this to recharge, to be able to give the best of me to me, my family, to their needs and to live this life the best I can.

Maybe a morning routine/ritual doesn’t work with your current situation and the evening is more appropriate (especially if got young children), or perhaps life is generally busy with balancing 2 jobs, or work and college or caring for elderly relations, or in poor health yourself, physically or mentally. We all have different circumstance and responsibilities that dictate what time we have to take to give to ourselves. But I will say, please try to carve out a space in your schedule that is just for you to do what you need to do to get some head space and clarity for what you want and how you can achieve it. I know you have goals and dreams, and you deserve to make them your reality, no matter how small or grand they may be.

All life is a cycle of phases, moving from one to next to the next. Mornings suit me perfectly just now, and I cant see that changing in the near future, but if and when the time comes that mornings don’t work, my ritual will evolve to accommodate the new circumstance. Also the content of my ritual time has changed and evolved over time, adjusting to what it is I need and and want from it. I have been making my ritual practice such a priority in my life for so long now that to let it go would be detrimental to my mental health and well being.

The solitude and me-time is compulsory and non-negotiable. It is self care, practice and sacred. . . and very much a ritual.

Do you have daily ritual(s)?

Lx